The Stress of Relationships

3 Keys to Overcome relationship stress


1.Follow God's direction for your life
People around you that expect things from you that is not your or God's direction
You can't please everyone all the time
If you deviate from God's plan to follow peoples demands you will lose your way and lose your peace. John 18:36

People had demands of Jesus that were different that God's will
Sometimes we don't want the Jesus that has demands for us
Get Direction from God not man
"Stress comes from trying to please others, blessed comes from focusing on following God"
John 5:30, 8:29, Jesus would have never gone to the cross if he did what others wanted.
God is our Boss, Galations 1:10

2.Learn to deal with disappointment in Life
Stress when we have expectations of others
Jesus did not hate on those but prayed and loved
Don't rely on people for satisfaction, happieness, or signifigance.
Jesus never counted on man for happiness or peace.
Were blessed when we forgive and were set free.
Jesus wept over peoples bad conduct but didn't let their failure to put him under stress.
Luke 10:38-42, James 1:20
We are accountants (We keep records of all the people who offended us, wronged us) 1 Corinthians 13:5, 1 Peter 2:3
Who knows what will happen when you give grace

3.Remain devoted to God
We are blessed when we live by faith, Foresaking All I Trust Him
We are in God's hands, Everything in the world around us is insignificant
In his arms we will find rest in our weary soul.

The Stress of Demands

Matthew 11:28-29

Stress: Allowing external circumstances to cause internal anxiety.

Jesus faced more stress then anyone!

Even on the cross Jesus had peace.

1) Release you frustrations to God Psalms 62:8
- Learn to deal with how you feel
-"Don't worry about anything, pray about everything" Philipians 4:6-7
-Pour out heart to God
-Be a winner not a Winer
-Have a Joyful heart

2) Evaluate the source of your Stress Psalms 73:21-24
-Don't be stressed about other people (Those who may seem more blessed that seem like they may not deserve it)
- When we evaluate the source of our stress we can let God take care of our problems
-Don't believe every thought and everything your told. Not every thought comes from God.

Statistics
-40% of things we worry about never happen
-30% worry about the past that can't be changed
-12% worry about criticism about others
-10% worry about health
-8% worry about real problems

Philipians 4:8-9
-"Worry will not stop tomorrow's sorrow, it will only rob you of Today's strength"
-Worry does no good, causes harm
-We can control habbits, attitude, spiritual life,

Advice:
Make two lists of what stresses you out. First list "Things you can't control". Second list "Things you can control"

3) Stick to what you know is right
-Right thing, stick to God's word (Psalm 119:143)
-find joy in God's word
-Only God can help sort things out
-Don't stay away from Church
-Bad decision, consequences will cause more stress 1 Peter 3:12


4)Trust in God (Proverbs 3:5-6)

Learning to Count!

3 Keys learning to count Psalm 90:12-13

1. Count your days- Life is short
-Seek God for Eternal home
-Focus on right goal and achieve wisdom

2. Add Wisdom to our hearts
-Gain heart of Wisdom
-People dig a whole and fill it again
- Values you possess are more important then your possessions
-We Need to make life count
-Live to Impact Others....What Impact Is your Life making today on others?
What would your obituary say?
-It's not about me but about reaching the lost of Jesus Christ!

One month To live!

Passage: Psalm 90

If I had 1 month to live how would I change, what would I do?

1. Accept Limitations
2. Apply heart to Wisdom
3. Adjust life choices

Life W/o Regrets
1.Live in Faith
2.Live Intentional
3.Live wholeheartedly...Live  a Life fully devoted to GOD!

Error of Ego (Mark 10:45)

Definitions:

• Ego- Putting self first before others.
• Pride- Contending for supermacy with God.
• Basic Pride- Better than others, needs more important then theirs.

What will pride turn you into?

Promotion comes from God. Humble myself before him.

True humility leads to riches, honor and long life.

I will die to self and live for Christ. "If you cling to your life you will lose it, if you let it go you will save it"

Pride causes you to stumble. Leads to conflict. Bring destruction. Destroys lives. Humility brings success.
Pride shows up in arrogance- thinking more highly than yourself then your not
Arrogance causes stupidity.
Pride shows up in vanity- Concerned with own image. Amount of time spent on making yourself look good.
Vanity causes stress.
Ego leads to strife.

God sees our character not our image, character lasts forever.